Couples Counseling: this is what the poet Rainer Maria Rilke has to say on Marriage . . .
The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.
I’m not going to say anything about this. It speaks for itself.
Questions for you:
Does Rilke describe your relationship? Does what he says resonate for you? What is one take-away you get from this? Let me know.
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