Marriage Counseling: “Being With” is Severely Underrated
Sometimes life places those we love in excruciating circumstances. They might be hurting, sick, grieving, or even dying.
As partners, our natural desire is to fix the problem and take away the hurt. But when we truly can’t “do anything in the face of such awfulness, we often feel helpless and powerless. This can be extremely hard for us to bear.
In situations such as these— in which “nothing can be done”— is there anything we can do?
Yes! We should never underestimate the power of simply “being with” our partner. This means being fully present and receptive to whatever our partner is experiencing without trying to change anything.
“Being with” is simple, yet not easy. Sometimes, it can be too painful to stay “open.” Be kind to yourself. Notice when you can remain “open” and when you can’t. Don’t judge yourself. If you need to take a moment, do so.
In the darkest moments, this act of “being with” is perhaps the greatest gift we can give.